Working through vulnerability and being an introvert: Interview with Rosie

Being an introvert can be hard to get to know us as introverts. Being vulnerable is hard in itself especially with the bad people in the world. Sadly too many that are close to us can hurt us. Women are groomed to be always sweet, nice, helpful, and nurtures which can push us to be easy targets. And at the beginning of any relationship, we let more things slide because we are in the rose-colored world of new love.

If you have to make excuses for someone’s behavior, that is a red flag.

We do things to quiet ourselves to just survive. We make excuses, stay quiet, or do less of what we like just so they don’t have to be out there together. Every time we make ourselves silent the more of ourselves gets chipped away, the more we lose ourselves. It gets buried in the hiding or trying to hide parts or all of the relationship.

Red Flags To Look Out For

  • You can’t ever do anything right. You are to blame for everything.

  • They don’t want you to talk to anybody else about anything

  • Everyone else’s opinions matter more

  • It’s selfish to leave

  • If you ___ enough things will get better. That a change in yourself will change them.

Leaving is always hard but it’s possible to have a great life for yourself. You just need to get the next step figured out and not the whole of your life. You can only take care of yourself and not change others for the better.