Mindset May Be All The Change You Need

This came from a Kari Leibowitz article in The Conversation. And to see that I already do this makes me feel a little better. And I have seen this in some of the situations I have been in. I still remember as a teen feeling like I can’t take the upset and pain. Which is valid since its the first time going through that situation. But with time and a good mindset you can not let many things ruin your day or week.

There are 2 main questions that you need to ask and they have to go together:

Any Opportunities Here?

You can’t just look at what is going on and what it is doing to you. Which, I know can be hard, is to pull back a little and get a bigger picture. Is there something you are missing? Something else that isn’t true or something else you can do? Does it actually have anything to do with you? What are some things you can learn from this?

Yes, you are allowed to feel your emotions. Do not just push them down thinking you always need to be logical. But after that first wave you do have time to really look at the situation. There is always something you can learn from it. And it doesn’t have to be some huge philosophical thing. It could literally be that what a stupid choice and you should never trust that person again.

What Can I Do?

It can feel hopeless. It can seem like everything is out of your hands. But there is always something you personally can do. Even if its just removing yourself from the immediate situation. Not engaging with people for the day just for your peace of mind. There may also be ways that you can get some control back. Making sure you get all the story, from all sides. Not engaging with people who only want to argue and place blame.