Boundaries As An Introvert: Interview With Whytli
Us introverts have to worry about our own energy different from non-introverts. Whylti use to bend to what others wanted and constantly people-pleased. And having a bad relationship that steamrolled your needs she learned how to set boundaries. This allowed her to protect herself and her energy. Which helped her foster deeper connection, because boundaries are a sign that people want to continue a relationship with you with those boundaries.
So many people believe that boundaries is about setting hard lines and cutting people off left and right. But it was never meant to be cruel or harsh. You are protecting yourself from future hurt. You want to give and receive respect. Boundaries are blueprints in how to show up in the relationship.
And you have to fight back against people when you are a people-pleaser. Many will not respect you and push back. Mostly because they are not use to it and do not like the change. And it will be hard for you as well. Because will have to retrain yourself to your new normal, especially with their boundaries. But the people who want to show up and be in your life will work with your changes. They will love and respect you the way you need.
The ones who throw a fit are the ones who do not want the change or really respect your needs. And some cannot move past those changes. But it doesn’t have to be an end-all-be-all big conversation. It will be many smaller conversations and quick reminders. Because no matter how small the boundary may seem to you it does change a big part of the relationship and the both of you will have to work on how it fits into your lives
