Crazy Thoughts All Introverts Have
We’ll always get into situations we don’t want to be in, or do things we don’t want to do. It is simply a part of life. When you have connections or responsibilities, you can’t always get out of things you don’t want to do. We could also actually want to do those things, and then we are “done” with it after a short period of time too. You have that moment where your energy goes away, or you get tired of a situation or what people are saying around you.
Introverts are usually the ones who sit back and observe. We usually want to listen to other people talk and we don’t always want to feel like we have to be the center of attention. Here are some of the crazy thoughts that all introverts have had at one point or another while interacting with people in the world:
“Can I leave yet?” Most of us stay longer than we want to, even if we were enjoying things up until that point. We just want to go home now, because we’re tired of talking and smiling, or just want to go home to go to sleep. As introverts, we may want to leave sooner than others sometimes. However, it’s not always possible and we don’t always want to be rude.
“Why are you so loud?” Some people have an inside voice that is absolutely grating, especially if you are in a crowded area. The worst part is you can’t flat out tell people this to their face because you would be considered rude. Some people don’t like silences or spaces in conversations either, and they cover it with loudness.
“If I have to answer one more useless question…” This is especially true in a work setting, or where new people are constantly joining your group. They ask pointless questions over and over again, such as where do you live, what do you do, and the like. I don’t mind it in the beginning, especially if we don’t know each other, but when it is repetitive, it gets annoying. Small talk just bothers me.
“Oh, shut up!” When you get stuck with people who repeat the same stories or won’t let a topic go and everyone else has moved onto something else, you might want them to shut up. Sometimes, you will get people who won’t stop talking about themselves either. These people need to learn how to read the room better.
“You are not funny.” There are too many people who think they need to tell jokes all the time, whether they are just nervous or are a misogynist who thinks any joke they tell is funny. This is one of the ones I have the most trouble not saying out loud. Sometimes, I’ll force a change in topic to give them a hard nudge that there joke was awful.
“Is it too early to go back to the bathroom/kitchen/outside?” (Or wherever you want to hide.) This is especially common when you only know one person and they are busy at the moment. You wonder if people will wonder if you have something wrong with you if you visit the bathroom again, or it’s winter and you don’t want to freeze outside, or no one else is in the kitchen.
“I like this person. Am I being too clingy? Am I taking over their time too much?” When you actually find someone you like or click with, especially when it’s someone new, and you want to stick with them but yet you don’t want to be awkward about it. It can be hard to tell when we’re being too much. One option is to give them space and see if they escape. It can take a while to see if people are okay with being around you.
The truth of the matter is that we all have different emotions and we can’t always help what we think. Stay awkward, my fellow introverts. We’re always going to be awkward. We may not be able to change that, but we can get slightly better at not making everyone else feel awkward around us.